After You Leave

Leaving a domestic violence situation is a courageous and critical step toward safety and freedom. It can feel overwhelming, but it’s essential to remember that you’re not alone. Whether you have already left or are considering leaving, there are crucial steps you can take to protect yourself, heal, and begin building a future free from violence.

Continue to plan for your and your children's safety.

Speak to school administrators, teachers, daycare staff, and any similar parties about not giving information to the abuser.

Provide a copy of the protection order to the school if one is in place, and update the emergency contacts and those authorized to pick up your child from school or daycare, if applicable.

Communicate with other key parties about your needs, including employers, medical providers, family members, and banks.

Reschedule any appointments your abuser might be aware of.

Change the routes you take to various places.

Including school, work, or stores you frequently visit.

Keep a certified copy of the protection order with you at all times.

If you move, be sure to register your protection order in the new state.

Create safety plans for various scenarios with trusted friends, family members, or advocates.

Begin recovery.

At your own pace, reconnect with people and activities that you enjoyed before your abusive relationship. Allow yourself and your children time to process your emotions. Try out various healthy coping mechanisms such as journaling, meditation, or creating art.